There once was a girl who, after having a fight with her boyfriend, left their apartment in a huff. While she as out wandering around, she decided she might as well check a few places to see if there were any jobs available she might apply for. She walked into the local bowling alley and talked with the manager. She filled out an employment form and they chatted. He was cute and sweet, and he asked if she wanted to hang out and go smoke a joint when he went on break. She was in a bad mood, so she said yes.
He directed her to a door that led into an unused area of the building. He said he would slip in through the back and let her in; he didn't want the other employees to see him sneaking out with her. She followed his directions. He let her into the other part of the building, and they sat down just inside on the floor and smoked the weed and chatted. Not so abnormal for a couple of young people (she was just twenty-two and he was about thirty).
After twenty minutes, his break was over, and he told her he had to get back to work. He instructed her to follow him out the back so he wouldn't get caught "playing hooky" with her. He indicated they would need to go down some stairs into the basement and out the back way.
Suddenly, the girl felt something was wrong. She felt the "gift of fear," as security specialist Gavin de Becker would call it. (Becker is the author of the book of that name in which he advises women to pay attention to their gut feelings about danger.) She told the man she wouldn't go out that way, and she stood next to the glass door at the front.
He looked at her with dead eyes and said, "You think I am going to kill you, don't you?"
She looked straight back at him and said, "Yes, I do."
He let her out the front door. Whether he did this because he knew she would put up one hell of a fight or because he admired her for being so direct with him, we will never know.
One thing I do know: I am happy to be alive, because that dumb girl who went off to smoke dope with a stranger was me.
(excerpt from How to Save Your Daughter's Life: Straight Talk for Parents from America's Top Criminal Profiler by Pat Brown)
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Included in this book, what parents of teen girls need to know about:
The Early Years
Partying, Drinking, Drugging, Casual Sex (Hooking Up), and Gangs
The Dangers of Social Networking and the Internet
Child Predators, Serial Rapists, and Serial Killers
The Sex Trade and Sex Trafficking