Friday, January 6, 2012

Trista Reynolds Was No Mom

by Dr. Michelle Golland

Okay, I feel like I am in an alternate universe on the sad story of missing baby Ayla. Am I the only one who is not buying a word from Trista Reynolds or even her father? This week on The Vinnie Politan show for HLN the focus was to be of the grieving grandfather and victimized mother Trista. My impression of the grandfather’s reaction was totally opposite. Here is a man whose daughter Trista was in drug rehab for alcohol and “other” drugs. Why is this family responding the way they are with nobody addressing how Trista has been as a mom. She was living with an aunt doing drugs. She needed to be forced into rehab and her kids taken from her by the child welfare agency and given to the father. All of this while she has a 9 month of baby from another man. Hello? Are we asleep here people?

Trista Reynolds was no mom. Justin Dipeitro who is being vilified by the media of course being lead by poor victimized not responsible Trista just makes me sick. What we do know is that even when she came out of her drug rehab program she only physically saw her daughter two times between November and when baby Ayla went missing on December. How she can claim bruises and even the broken arm as abuse when she has had no time in the home of her daughter with Justin is suspicious. The way the grandfather kept repeating that why didn’t Justin check on Ayla during the night is just ridiculous. A 20month old child can sleep through the night. If she goes down at 8pm and doesn’t wake up that is not strange to me at all. What is strange is that the Reynolds family is pointing to that as some evidence of neglect and guilt. All it says to me is that they obviously have not been taking care of this child to even know what a normal pattern of care would entail. 

Why is that? Because Trista was never really caring for Ayla. She is a drug addict who then secretly goes to the court to get custody for Ayla. Given her history I would be surprised if the court was going to grant her full custody. Also, has anyone wondered how she is doing with her sobriety during all of this major stress? Has anyone in the media been curious what drug was she abusing? Why are we not pushing for more open honesty from the Reynolds family? When I see the Reynolds family on CNN, HLN, ABC and NBC I don’t see a traumatized desperate family I see people trying to manipulate the media and spin the story how they want it be and nobody is asking the questions that might start to unravel some obvious truths. For example, “Trista were you angry that Justin had custody of Ayla? Trista who was taking care of your other child while in rehab? Trista please explain why as a mom you didn’t see your daughter on a regular basis after coming out of drug rehab? Trista do you see how it seems the court may not be willing to grant you custody given your neglectful behavior as a mother to your children, correct? “

So please next time this family is on the air with you stop lobbing softballs and get real already about how this doesn’t sit right at all. It seems to be that Justin Depietro is taking his direction from the police at each step and if you listen closely they are confirming each thing he states in the media. When I see him speak I see a father who is in shock and trying to cope beyond his limits so he is turning to who he believes he can trust which is the police and not Trista. This may be why he hasn’t contacted her or her family. I also think the lack of contact may be directed by the police to increase the anxiety of the Reynolds family because they believe they may have orchestrated this whole mess. When I look at behavior as a parent and behavior right before this poor little girl went missing the only place my finger keeps pointing is straight at Trista Reynolds and her enabling “victimized” family.

15 comments:

Stacy4USC said...

Oh my gosh, FINALLY Michelle! Someone who's been thinking the same thing I've been thinking since Day One. There is something definitely not right with the Reynolds family, especially Trista and her behavior since little Ayla went missing. Wow, keep up the good work!!

Stacy4USC said...

Oh my gosh Michelle, FINALLY someone who I COMPLETELY agree with. I've been thinking this since Day One. Keep up the good work!!

Virgo said...

Trista may be a drug addict and suck as a mother, but the child went missing on the watch of her father. Unless you are suggesting Trista kidnapped Ayla or had someone do it for her, what is your point with vilifying her like this? I certainly don't think she in line for sainthood but daddy needs to be scrutinized as well. A child is missing and you want to know why Trista only saw Ayla twice since she got out of rehab. What relevance is that to the missing baby?? How is that info going to assist in finding Ayla?

Trista didn't secretly go to court either. How can you do that when every court document is public record? It is my understanding she wasn't seeking [sole] custody but was seeking to have her parental rights reinstated. Either way, Ayla is her child and she has every right to do so.

Other than to trash this sorry excuse of a parent, which serves absolutely no purpose, I don't understand the relevance of your post.

Virgo said...

Looks like daddy failed a polygraph. What a shock.

Anonymous said...

Ayla was taken by the grandmother Phoebe and father Justin because she was left with Trista's sister who has had her children taken away by the state...because of being an unfit parent.Bet that pissed them off... Trista was a one night stand type thing for Justin...Phoebe is very matriculate and takes care of p's and q's and would not screw things up legally by doing something stupid.They wanted Ayla legally...thats why she advised Justin to listen to the cops and do as they were told...to keep things quiet...Justin was ready to gather friends and kick in doors. Ayla was targeted...taken. The only thing they can do is sit and wait and let the police do as they are.That means taking all the scrutinization and crap about parenting skills...and his character.That crap doesnt matter to them...Ayla matters to them.

Anonymous said...

Trista Reynolds now has an acct. where all monies go through HER! I find this totally disgusting. I wonder if she is back on drugs. I know she couldn't complete the poly test for some reason. To me, she has never shown true grief that one would expect of a Mother whose child is missing.

Anonymous said...

Trista's SHOW ME THE MONEY is just like
Cindy Anthony!

Anonymous said...

Well for beginners, her children were being taken care of by her sister and her mother while she was in detox. The CPS supervisor over stepped her bounds by illegally giving Ayla to Justin, although Justin had never been a regular part of Ayla's life. The reason trista had only seen Ayla a few times since detox was because Justin didn't show up for agreed on meetings and visits, and he ignored phone calls and texts from Trista. I find it very amusing and ignorant hat people keep saying, if my child was missing I would act more upset...how the heck do you know that? You've most likely never had a child missing.
What we do know is in Justin's custody Ayla had several bruises a broken arm and came up missing, in the less than 2 months he had her! In Tristas care, hmm wait ..nope ...can't think of anything that happened while in tristas care. Trista was seeking help for alcohol abuse, just like thousands of others have done, and yes some of those people are indeed parents. Being an alcoholic doesn't make you a bad parent.
We also know that Justin didn't pass his lie detector and that he is no longer getting guidance from the police on what to say I.e. I didn't see the results of my polygraph, police say he did get the results...he says he knows he smoked it..um, but didn't he just say he didn't know how he did.
Phoebe says no she wasn't the last to go to bed that night, no there wasn't a party, no she didn't hear anything...she neglects to say..she didn't hear anything because she wasn't there, she wasn't the last to go to bed, because she wasn't there..wtf.

Anonymous said...

I read today that blood has been found in the basement of DePietro's house. LE is testing it to see if it is Aylas.

Seamus O Riley said...

A sober minded article that touches upon the surface of the reality that Ayla was born into.

thanks for a solid article.

Peter Hyatt

Jane McLaughlin said...

Finally!!! Justin has been vilified long enough in the Media!! and nobody ever looks at the mom...I totally agree with you on this!!

Anonymous said...

Are you saying she has fooled Le,the FBI,and Maine State Police? Lets give LE some credit they know what they are doing.

Anonymous said...

Justin is not listening to LE.or The Laura Recovery Center trained experts with missing children.He is not doing what they want him to to to find his child.

Anonymous said...

Come on Dr. Golland, You can't villify the mom and defend the dad at the same time. Neither of them are fit to be parents and for you to take a one sided approach to the missing toddler is ridiculous. Poor Ayla had no chance with either but Justin is a slimeball. Either he hurt that poor child or somehow drugs were involved and he can't seem to confess to it. Your approach to defend him and to only villify the mom is just naive.

tlcox said...

Dr. or no, the author really should do some fact checking with legitmate sources before attempting to address this case.

Comments on Facebook pages and random blogger opinions do not facts make.